When a child is born they know what unconditional love is so they will demand they get unconditional love from their mother. If she does not know what it is they the child will act out crying and putting on tantrums to get the mothers attention. If she does not know why the child is acting out she may discipline the child or avoid them. This is interpreted by the child as rejection and abandonment. If the mother continues this action toward the child The child will feel mother is withholding love, acceptance and recognition. If this behaviour continues over a a year or more the child will ten begin to accept and believe the behaviour mothers is the way she is treating them is what love is.

If the baby knows that he/she is not the desired gender the parents want, it locks rejection in further. If the baby is not wanted due to any form of rejection by birth parents or from a mistake or any other conflict which the parents may be thinking, feeling or any attitude or behaviour which may cause a feeling of not being wanted it locks rejection in further. Religious beliefs that state we are born in sin further locks in these programs. As a result only 30% of the children have a chance at feeling loved at birth. This drops to less than 1% as they begin to grow up.

On the positive side, if the mother has supportive feelings about herself with the ability to demonstrate true love with support from her family and has a strong enough mind to make a commitment to herself that she will not bring a child into the world and raise them as her parents did, plus has support from the father in the same manner then the baby has a chance to be born in love in a supportive world.

This what my wife and I decided to accomplish. It took six years in relationship before we decided we could have children without causing a rejection reaction that we felt as children. Very few parents even think or plan their family. It just happens. When we felt we had our parents basic imprinting in control, we felt it was safe to have a child. This is an extremely important quality. It can only happen if the parents have a strong identity and belief in themselves. Very few people have this developed in their thirties or forties let alone their twenties when most people have children. We were in our thirties when our children were born so our identity of who we were had been firmly established.

We also decided to only have two and keep them five years apart so there would not be any conflicts. They grew up knowing they could trust us and know that we would be there for them and not react in negative ways. As a result they grew up in unconditional love. They have self esteem, self worth, and self confidence. They have never been sick or suffered from any illness at any time in their life. I addition to this they never missed a day of school.

We have to make these decisions before we have children so we don’t foul up their lives. We control their computer programming input until they are 10 years old so it is very important we do not invade their space with negative behaviour or forceful attitudes and actions cause them to be afraid of us. We have to develop trust and respect in them.

Very few people know what love is in any form. Some people may be able to act out what they think love is by definition. The conflict is not very clear to most people because they have never had a love model in their life. Love is a quality that comes from a basic feeling of being accepted, approved, validated and acknowledged for who you are as a child. To activate the values of unconditional love in your life you must have been born into a functional family that displayed and practiced unconditional love in their family lifestyle. If this was not learned in childhood or you have not worked through your childhood issues of rejection, abandonment, not being accepted, feeling not all right, self rejection, lack of value and many other feeling and emotions that are from dysfunctional families then this produce more dysfunctional behaviour. Without those qualities you will not have self esteem, self worth or self confidence. These are cluster qualities which means they can not exist separately they must all be functional in your life or they are not able to be demonstrated to children.

When we are from a dysfunctional family we may not know the causes because we are living in an illusion due to being buried in our Subconscious Minds data base in denial. We do not want to revisit those feelings so we have locked them out of our conscious awareness. They are still filed in our data base, but we can not find them. When I check a person with Kinesiology (muscle testing) using a persons arm as an indicator device to find out if they are willing to bring up all the negative feeling, attitudes and experiences from the past so we can release them I always get a no response. Why would we get this response if a person wants to clear the past so they can get on with their life? Because nobody wants to revisit the traumatic experiences of the past. They are locked up so why not keep them that way. Unfortunately they must be released, but we do not have go back and experience the struggle, suffering and trauma over again. We can lump it altogether and release them in a short time with the Energy Medicine process. But we have to access them to find base cause and core issues.

For the more than 80 years the movie industry and the media has misrepresented what love is. This has caused a serious breakdown in family life styles and social culture. We are not talking about romance or sex which is unfortunately played up in most of the media as love. What love means is very different from the popular media version.

What love is not: The thumping feeling that causes us to be attracted to someone. Being swept off your feet over a romance or Sexual attraction. Love is not an emotion it is a feeling. It must come from an internal source within us. It is something you grow into when you find a person who has similar attitudes, feeling and desires. Love has nothing to do with sex even though that is the way it played up in the media.

So what does this do to us when we see all the conflicts on the media about these people who are supposed to be our idols which leads to further conflicts? All you have to do is look at the number of young people who back out of life in suicide. The numbers had gone up 800% in the last 40 years. Many feel lost because they can’t find love and happiness. They never will with the media model. If their parents model was dysfunctional them where do you go to find the model to follow? Many people are attending seminars and workshops on personal growth and transformation to find a new path in life. If you are on the rocks already, marriage counseling very seldom works. Very few therapist are adept enough to locate the cause which caused you to make the choice. First you have to find out how you ended up making the improper choice before you can change the behaviour. If you do not find out why you are making improper choices you will do it again, again and again until change the behaviour.

Unconditional love is a form of acceptance without need to prove anything. Love is kindness and caring without any judgment or control. It is acceptance of others as they are without the need to change, control or to require any specific action. Love has no needs it only gives.

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Family cruises allow you to spend quality time with your family, away from the pressures of everyday life. When planning your perfect cruise vacation, use this guide to help you decide on the options you would like to be included.

Finding inexpensive family cruises that are within your budget is easier than you may realize. Family packages are offered by most cruise lines, and are a less expensive option for taking the entire family on a cruise. For lots more information about individual family cruises, just check online. When you come across one that looks like it might be the right one for you, pay close attention to all thats offered.

If your traditional family reunions are becoming a bit stale, how about a family reunion cruise? For this situation, it is important to select a cruise package that has a variety of activities to suit everyone in your family. There are so many activities available on most cruises that you will never fit everything into your schedule. Taking one of these family cruises will keep you and your loved one excited and talking about the details for a long time.

And just because you have a baby or toddler doesnt mean you should rule out family cruises. A lot of cruise lines have childcare services available and can also furnish a crib for your cabin. If your children are a little older, theyll find more than enough to keep them occupied. Cruise ships offer fun activities like games and contests, parties, escorted tours, and many others. And there are plenty of fun things that will keep adults busy too! You can choose from things like fine dining and dancing, swimming, movies and casinos.

If youre thinking of family cruises, you should check out the ships medical facilities and its cancellation policies. But one of the big advantages of family cruises is that theyre designed so that you really dont have to worry about anything, and you can just relax and enjoy yourself while leaving the details to someone else.

Family cruises are a good choice for a wide variety of reasons. Besides being able to spend some one-on-one time with your family, theyre a great value and youll just plain have fun. And family reunion cruises are very attractive because one is free from the burden of hosting them. And cruises set sail at all times of the year, making it convenient to plan a trip around everyones vacation times. An added bonus on family cruises is catching up on a little romantic time with your spouse, while your kids are having the time of their life.

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Love is the feeling of affection towards someone. In the love field, you simply do not choose who to love. You might choose who to live with for convenience but not who to grow fond of. A marriage for convenience needs a lot of patience and tolerance. To live happily the couple must device a way of dealing with things. In the love field, extremes are not encouraged. The opposite of love is hate. If you do not love your spouse, if he wrongs you he experiences a lot of hatred. This is a dangerous exercise since there is a possibility of harm. Love acts as a mediation factor in many disputes. Lack of it creates fights out of simple disagreements. Hard times in a relationship act as a great love test.

Why are people murdering their spouses all the time? It is mostly out of bitterness. There are people who venture into marriage not because they are in love but because they have some other interests. They hook up with some one because they are hoping to be associated with something great. A wealthy and powerful man is always a target for many women. What happens when after marriage the money is gone with the wind? When the power goes down the drain? The marriage is shattered. In such a case the calamities act as a good love test. The love field becomes full of revenge activities. The pretence comes to an end and the true colours are revealed. It is under such circumstances that suicide and murder usually occur.

People should know that money and power are things which were once attained and can also go down the toilet. Love conquers all the troubles. It acts like a bond that keeps many couples together. With money or no money, with power or no power a marriage that is genuine should stand firm. A love test will always be there and if you are keen to observe you will know whether your marriage relationship is purely based on love. In the love field of a malicious marriage, there are a lot of plotting games that go on. For example if you notice that your spouse withdraws fat amount of cash from an account and becomes rude when you ask for explanation, you should be cautious.

If you watch a love field of couples with an admirable marriage, they play the game with a lot of enthusiasm. There is no much effort in making things work out. Nature takes its course. They stand together and strong when they are undergoing a love test. Have you ever found yourself laughing when it is least expected? True love overshadows all the problems. When your partner is sick it is the perfect time to express all your love and concern to him/her. It should actually bring you together as a couple. Love is sweet when it is genuine so try your best not to force it. There is off course the unfairness of love where it is one sided. If the other party is unwilling, please relax and wait for your own true love.

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.

I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

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